Setting Personal Boundaries

Your body often tells you when a boundary is being crossed—you might feel tense, angry, anxious, or just want to get away from the situation.”

Part 3: Boundary Identification

1 minute

“Think about a situation in your life right now where you wish you had clearer boundaries. Maybe someone borrows things without asking, texts you too late at night, pressures you to do things you don’t want to do, or doesn’t respect your privacy. What’s one boundary you’d like to set or strengthen in your life right now?”

Part 4: Boundary-Setting Formula

1.5 minutes

“Here’s a simple way to set that boundary clearly:

‘When [situation happens], I feel [emotion], so I need [specific request].’

For example: ‘When you borrow my stuff without asking, I feel disrespected, so I need you to ask permission first.’

Let’s try creating one for the boundary you just mentioned.”

Help them craft their boundary statement using the formula.

Part 5: Closing & Next Steps

30 seconds

“That’s a great boundary statement. Setting boundaries takes practice and might feel uncomfortable at first, but it gets easier. Having boundaries isn’t selfish—it actually helps build healthier relationships. Try using this statement the next time you’re in that situation.”